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Overview Discipline
  • Discipline isn't just about punishment.
  • People have many concerns about bringing up children in the right way.
  • Everyone wants their children to:
    • care about others
    • care about the world
    • be interested in others
    • be kind, thoughtful and considerate
    • behave appropriately.
  • Some people think children can be spoiled by being given lots of attention. But giving children lots of love and attention means they will be happy and content with good self esteem.
  • Children are not naturally naughty. They usually respond to sensible, honest comments which help them understand their behavior.
  • Suggested reading list of books which should be readily available at public libraries:  PRC has a number of high-lighted books.

     

    • 'Every Parent, A Positive Approach to Children's Behavior' by Matthew R.Sanders PhD Published by Addison-Wesley Publishing Company, 1992.
    • 'Toddler Taming, A parent's guide to (surviving) the first four years' by Dr Christopher Green, published by Doubleday Australia Pty Limited, 984.
    • 'Coping with the Family' by Dr John Irvine, published in Sun by Pan Macmillan Publishers Australia in 1994
Talking back 
  • Some parents feel they must 'win' arguments with their children.
  • If there is a disagreement, explain the matter sensibly and calmly to your child.
  • If they are treated as intelligent people they will react positively.
  • Make sure you explain why you feel the way you do.
  • Ask the child why they feel the way they do and LISTEN to their answer.
  • If the 'argument' is over something dangerous, explain the dangers calmly.
  • If the child is too young to understand, remove them from the danger.
Making rules Discipline
  • Many people believe you should smack children. Children want to do the right thing and are usually happy to comply when things are explained simply to them.
  • You may like to make some rules and discuss them with your child.
  • If there are problems perhaps you could ban television for one day, send them to their room until they calm down or make them sit absolutely still for a few minutes. Find a way which suits you and your child.
  • It is important to be consistent. If you make a rule then stick to it.
  • Some parents feel they must not let children 'get away' with things. Set limits, rules and boundaries and give reasons for these. Explain what behavior is acceptable and why.
  • Let children be part of your family's decision making process. Let them decide as many things as possible for themselves, explain the consequences and if necessary let them experience the consequences. This way they will learn about themselves and self control.
  • Rules and boundaries can be set in a positive way:

     

    • give reasons for rules
    • tell your children what sort of behavior is acceptable and why
    • have a few simple rules which help children decide what is dangerous, destructive or disturbing to others.

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