Bodily Distress: anxiety can cause physical or emotional symptoms
such as loss of appetite, obsessive eating, exhaustion,
Anger: outward expressions of hostility, rage, explosive behavior
or inward expressions of depression, self-blame or self
Hostile Reactions to the Deceased: feelings of being deserted,
Hostile Reactions to Others: blaming others such as
Guilt/Self-Blame: "If only I hadn't done____",
guilt over comments such as "I wish you were dead"
or "I hate
Bargaining: buying time to accept the reality of the
Replacement: a child quickly seeks affection from others as a
Assumptions of Mannerisms: the child takes on characteristics of
the loved one.
Tries to carry out the plans or wishes of the one that died.
Idealization: the child is obsessed with positive qualities.
Depression: feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, withdrawal,
Anxiety: preoccupation with physical symptoms. School avoidance is
Panic: state of confusion and shock. A period of fearfulness
Acceptance: Child learns to reorganize his/her life without the
dead loved one.